Question about parole officer telling someone they can’t be with their pregnant fiancee.
Yes, your parole officer can stop you from being with your fiancee.
Your parole officer can restrict your ability to interact with practically anyone and you have very limited recourse. You might ask your parole officer if s/he is willing to have a conversation with you about whether they’d be willing to reconsider or, failing that, what the best way you can support your fiancee and family is until you’re permitted to have contact again. If you already have children together, find out if there’s a way you can arrange to see your children, even if you can’t see their mother. If this child will be your first, you could ask if an exception could be made for you to be present at the delivery or to meet your child after birth. I don’t promise that your officer will say that this is okay, but it doesn’t hurt to (calmly and respectfully) ask.
You could also look into what the procedures are for requesting a different parole officer in your jurisdiction if you feel like what’s being done is capricious and unreasonable, but I wouldn’t hold my breath — my guess is that even if you were able to get a new officer, the new officer would continue on with the recommendations of your original officer.
Remember that you won’t be able to be there for your fiancee or child if you’re in jail. Focus on doing what needs done to get you through probation. In your position, if I wasn’t able to interact with my pregnant partner, I’d do my best to pick up another job in my off-hours and put all my free time toward making sure I have the most stable home possible to offer my family when I was able to see them again. I’m sure what you (and she) are going through right now really sucks, but do your best to take advantage of this time to do the best you can for you and for your family.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there and good luck!
This blog post is for informational purposes only and should not be relied on as legal advice. This post was about someone whose PO or parole officer told him he couldn’t be with or have contact with his pregnant fiancee. Consult with a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction to determine whether this post is relevant to you.